FAIL!!!!!!!

So... clearly... I have failed at meeting my goal to blog daily. Hell, I haven't even blogged weekly :(

So, I've decided that I'll shoot for a much more attainable goal for me, and that is to blog at least 3 times a week... I'm even going to put it on my calendar. So, here goes nothing...

Sincerely,

TSH

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Is This Some Kind of Joke?

After watching that I find myself in a state of confusion.

Did she call President Obama's dead mother a liar?... Is she acting?...

What do you think?

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I Just Had To...

This made me smile so hard that I couldn't help but to post it!




Sincerely,

TSH

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Food For Thought: Black Entrepreneurs???

I know this is an overstated topic, but it really hit home for me today. I was in a beauty supply store. It appeared as if there were only two people working in the store while I was there (others could have been in a storage/stock room or something), and both of them happened to be Black women. One of the women was very helpful, she seemed very knowledgeable of the ins and outs of the store. As I was checking out, I asked if she was the owner of the store, to which she replied, "No, I just run it." I gathered my things and made my exit.

As I was leaving the store I took a second look at the items for sale in the store and this question came to mind...

Who said it was O.K. for Asians to capitalize on the sale of Black culture?... Which inspired a more in depth train of thought.

It is apparent that Black culture sells. Black culture and pop culture are almost synonymous these days. However, when you look at the face of who is profiting from turning Black/urban culture into mainstream culture (the ones making the big bucks), it sure isn't doesn't look like mine; chances are it's probably white and male.

Why is this?... Why does it seem as if Black people lack entrepreneurial drive?...

Then it occurred to me... Maybe it's just the perpetuation of an American tradition. I mean... since the beginning of the United States of America's existence Blacks were being sold to the general public as a commodity.

Is it possible that somehow this way of thinking has been woven into the subconscience of African Americans as a whole? Are there external pressures sending subliminal messages that Black people are unfit to own a prosperous business?...

Or maybe it's not subliminal at all. In 2004 Blacks accounted for only 4% of small business in America, I would assume that that number has not grown enough to mirror the percentage of Black people living in America today. It is undeniable that Blacks have historically been denied access to the economic, educational and institutional resources to become successful entrepreneurs. And now when the playing field seems level the situation is still dire.

I could go on and on, as many thought linger in my head... But I'll leave you with these...

Who said it was O.K for other cultures to profit on the sale of Black culture?
Are there subliminal/subconscious (societal) elements discouraging Blacks from owning their own businesses?
Are there still institutional barriers in place today that deny Black people access to a different/better/more profitable lifestyle?

Just my thoughts...

Sincerely,

TSH

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A Little Piece of Wisdom

Photo courtesey of www.rogershipley.com

Everyday I aspire to be better than I was the day before. But some times it feels like there is only so much one can do. And some times it feels like there is just nothing to be done that will be better than the previous day. However, there is ALWAYS room for improvement.

I've been reading Forbes Great Minds of Business, it is a series of interviews of five of the most prolific CEO's/executives of the 20th century. From this book I've learned some valuable pieces of wisdom that will help with my daily struggle of striving to become great. I hope that they will speak to you as well.

• Avoid comfortable equilibrium - In other words steer clear of the status quo. It's very easy to become content with doing the bear minimum required to just make it by. However, that can lead to a very boring existence and you may appear to lack motivation and initiative, which are great qualities to have. I encourage you ask questions, go above and beyond your requirements, and challenge yourself and others.
• Make fear your friend - This is one of my favorites. You know the anxious feeling that you get when you are about to take on a new endeavor. When you're experiencing that feeling it's terrible, but in hind sight it's one of the best feelings in the world. This anxiousness/fear can serve as a motivator and with it you may perform better than ever before.
• Take control of your destiny - This one is pretty self explanatory. Make good decisions that will put you in a position to excel and prosper. Surround yourself with like minded people that you trust, who will help you to reach your goals.
• Think outside the box - Approach a tough situation or a problem that you may be having as if you were someone else. Pretend that you are not emotionally tied to the situation or as if you're helping a friend out and see what solutions you come up with.
• Discipline - We all know what it's like to not want to do anything. And we all deserve to be able to relax and/or do something leisurely when time permits. However, staying on task is very important in our fast paced world of timelines and deadlines. Sometimes we have to make the difficult decision of choosing work over play.
• Conviction & Commitment - Last but not least, do all things to the best of your ability. Chose projects that you are passionate about, if you can't chose your projects, become passionate about the work you produce. Those two words (converted to actions) will take you a long way.

I hope these tips are helpful to you, as I will be applying them to my life as well.

Sincerely,

TSH

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Intervention

So... I know I've been MIA lately... But I'm back, and my goal is to blog at least once a day.

There. I've said it publicly, so that means I must really make a valiant effort. We'll see.

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Am I Reading Too Much Into It?...

I mean... you tell me...



I'm just saying... looks pretty shady to me!

Sincerely,

TSH

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Wait... So It Really Happenned... :-(

I guess it's finally sunk in... I think I was hoping all the way up to this point that someone had made a mistake... We love you Micheal!

I remember when Micheal Jackson broadcasted his concert live on HBO back in the day. I was no older than 10 years old. It was such a big deal in my household! I remember my parents making sure that they had a clean VHS ready to record the show for days prior to the actual showing. I watched that video at least once a week for the next 6 weeks.

Micheal Jackson was an undeniable talent (regardless of what these silly critics, who insist upon ridiculing this man even in death, say). And he opened the doors for and touched so many people throuhout his life. He will truly be missed!

I think I'm going to go over my parents house and watch that video this weekend (I hope I can find a VCR).

Michael Jackson - New Music - More Music Videos

Michael Jackson - New Music - More Music Videos

Michael Jackson - New Music - More Music Videos

Sincerely,

TSH

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STERILIZE HIM!

I know this sounds terrible, but I have to say it.

Some people should be sterilized. Really. Some people should not be allowed to reproduce.

Exhibit A: Desmond Hatchett, a 29 year old Tennessee resident.

First, let me reiterate the fact that Hatchett is 29 years old. This man is 29 years old and the father of 21 children. 21 children. And what's worst, he is a minimum wage worker - I'm not hating on minimum wage workers. We all have to get it how we live, but there is no doubt that I am certainly hating on this situation.

This is ridiculous.

Hatchett appeared in court recently for failure to maintain child support payments. He is required to pay between $25 and $309 per month to each of his 11 baby mamas. Unfortunately with his monthly wages this just is not going to happen. The court can only legally garnish his wages up to 50% of what he makes, leaving some of his baby mamas only to receive $1.98 per month. Because of Hatchett's inability to support all of his 21 children the state of Tennessee will have to step in, which means that tax dollars will go toward taking care of this irresponsible fools children.

I rest my case.



**Let me just say that most people who know me will agree that I try to not judge people and whatever situation they may be in or going through, but this is just beyond me. Irresponsibility is irresponsibility. And this is f-ing ridiculous. And what really gets my blood boiling is that he had the nerve to say that all of the women that he impregnates "know what they are getting into."

Why is the burden of contraception automatically placed on the woman. Should he not be responsible enough to know that he can not afford to have any more children?... Obviously he can't be. So I say, STERILIZE HIM!

Sincerely,

TSH

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Ignorance of the Day: What Are They Trying to Say?

Like seriously... I don't get it... ::scratching my head::

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I Absolutely, Undoubtedly LOVE Him!

All I can say is that, I love him! This is great!

Visit msnbc.com for Breaking News, World News, and News about the Economy

Sincerely,

TSH

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Quote of the Day.

"Part of being a good friend is being honest." -President Obama, on US relations with Israel.

I heart President Obama (who I lovingly call Barry)...

But really... He took that simple statement, which is just some real every day type stuff, a little piece of wisdom that his grandmother may have imparted upon him, and he applied it to a much more complicated situation, for which it certainly makes sense.

To view the NY Times article click here.

Sincerely,

TSH

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My Daily Battles: Black Women Role Models

Is it me, or does it seem like there is a shortage of Black female role models. I'm not saying that there is a shortage, because I don't believe that that to be the case... But what I'm saying is that it sure seems like it.

Why does "the media" (whoever that is) insist on showing these unrealistic portrayals of Black women?

Why do the Black women that expose themselves to these media outlets allow themselves to be exploited in such a way?

I guess the answer is simple... IT SELLS!

Next question... Why does it sell?

Well, I have my opinions, but for now, I'd like you to know what you think... Leave it!

*I have more to come on this topic, because there is so much more to explore... This is one of my daily battles.

**Also, by using the image above I'm not implying that the women pictured are not role models in their own right, I'm just using those pictures as an example of the type of imagery that is used by various media outlets (although I would argue that some of them are not and/or should not be considered role models by a long shot, but that's for a separate post).

Sincerely,

TSH

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Wreckless Love... Or Homewrecker Love?

It's simple. Married men are off limits. Period. Dot.

I try to keep the gossip to a minimum here, but for some reason this story struck a chord with me.

No, I have never been married, and no, I don't know what it feels like to have another woman destroy what I believed to be a beautiful and unyielding union of which I was one half. But, I'd imagine that if feels quite awful.

So... 2 things:

1. Listening to the interview with Mashonda, it stood out to me when she said she realized that it is not her fault...

So many times we (women in similar situations) blame ourselves for the mistreatment that we arbitrarily receive, whether it be verbal, physical, or psychological abuse... I could go on and on about what I believe causes the mental chains that lock us into believing that we inherently deserve to be misused, but I won't... Instead, I'll just say that we (women) need to learn to love ourselves. Love ourselves as deeply as we love the men that we seek, so that if we do come across a man who chooses to mistreat us, we can simply walk away (as hard as it may be), because we will love ourselves enough to know that our own mental, physical and emotional health is more important than that unhealthy relationship... We also need to respect ourselves, which will unintentionally yield respect for other women and the sanctity of their romantic relationships. If we gain a greater sense of respect for ourselves then we will not allow ourselves to be disrespected by being some body's side piece... And in regaining these simple virtues, we will become better role models to the little girls who will come after us.

2. Say it ain't so Alicia... Not the Alicia Keys that I know (in my head). Not the Superwoman, A Woman's Worth, singing Alicia...

How many of us thought that Alicia Keys would break up some body's happy home?... I sure didn't. I mean, I know it's all hear say right now, but if you ask me, it's pretty convincing hear say. But I guess, it just goes to show that you can't judge a book by it's cover, or a celebrity by their public persona... I mean, who would've thought the Chris Brown's little adorable self would nut up on Rih Rih... but let's not go there.

OK, so 3 things....

3. Because I like Alicia, and because, aren't we all just trying to find true love?....

What if your one chance at real, true love is with a married man?... What if he is your soul mate?...

Yea, that doesn't even make sense, because if he were your soul mate then you wouldn't have to steal him from another woman, right?... Well, I tried to give A. Keys the benefit of doubt... but hey, there is only so much bs'ing a person can do.

Conclusion=Unacceptable!

Sincerely,

TSH

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Longstanding Tradition in the South :-(

Segregated Proms. I guess I just don't understand. When I was in high school, about 30% of the students that attended my school were Black, about 60% were white, and the remaining 10% identified with other ethnic groups. However, I distinctly remember that we all hung out with each other, especially during and after big events. I can't imagine not spending Prom night with all of my fellow classmates, who helped to shape my high school experience, all in the same building on the same night.

However, according to an article that appeared on the NY Times website the other day, segregated proms are longstanding traditions in towns across the rural South.

Yes! Still! In 2009. In the era of our first Black President. People continue to purposely practice segregation even today. 55 years after the U.S. Supreme Court overturned the Plessy v. Ferguson decision, in the 1954 Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka case, ruling that the separate but equal policies of the past were unlawful.

In my opinion this (segregated proms) is the perpetuation of racism, although those who stand by these segregated events call them tradition. I, however, pose a question to those who hold the belief that this is tradition... From where does this tradition come?...

I also have an answer: It comes from racist practices of our past. From the Jim Crow laws that prohibited Blacks from occupying the same space as Whites. It comes from the antebellum era when Blacks were enslaved and sold as chattel. From a belief that Blacks are only 3/5 of a person.

And you know what?... It just ain't right... tradition or not...

Sincerely,

TSH

* To view the article, click the link above.

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Bring Back the Cosby's!!!

This year marks the 25th anniversary of the nationally acclaimed Cosby Show --which I still love to this day!

The Cosby show is hands down my favorite sitcom of all time. The show was ground breaking in that it displayed a different view of the African American family than what was being shown on television in the early to mid 80s. The Cosby Show transformed the view of the African American family from an obscurity to be viewed as simply an American family.

Check out the link below to watch the Cosby's cast reunion which took place on the NBC's Today Show.

• Bill Cosby is still hilarious!


• Phylicia Rashad is still beautiful and her demeanor emotes sophistication.


• And I was cracking up at the clips of the show in the beginning!


• I think we need a 21st century Cosby Show!!!!

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/30823062#30823062

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A Woman's Work: Where Do I Go From Here?

Most of the decisions that I've made in my life up to this point have been in a effort to make it to this point. I am a college graduate and a bona fide career woman, as I have been working for almost two years and am on my way to having a successful, lucrative and rewarding career. However, now that I've reached this point in my life, on the cusp on 25 years, my question is, where do I go from here?

Lately, when talking with my closest friends, our conversations center around this question. We are now realizing that being a working, career-oriented woman, who aspires to have a family is a real balancing act... I would have to say that currently my most prevalent goal is to become very successful in my career. I see the next five years as being VERY important for me when it comes to professional development. But, where does marriage and a family fit it?

I also want to get married and start a family within the next five years. But I don't want to have to choose. I want to reach my career goals and my personal goals without compromise. Pondering these questions often leaves me perplexed, but hey, I am woman. It's been done before. Resilience flows through my veins.

In the mean time, here are some of my short-term, everyday goals that I hope will help me reach my career and personal goals (without compromise). Maybe they can help you as well. Let me know what you think.

1. Wake up earlier. - God knows I'm not a morning person, but there may be something to that old saying, "The early bird gets the worm." So I'm gonna give it a try.


2. Stay abreast of current events. - Knowing what's going on in the world will assure that I'm never left speechless in the presence of clients or co-workers.


3. Exercise daily. - Exercise promotes better overall health and is proven to improve ones mood. Physical health is very important to me, as it allows for me to get things done.


4. Take at least 15 minutes to prepare for the following day. - Proper planning prevents poor performance.


5. Take at least an hour a day to do what I want to do! - Whether it be reading for leisure, visiting with friends, blogging, or just taking time to clear my mind.


6. Make sure I talk to my Boo daily! - I'm still working on that marriage ;-)

Sincerely,

TSH

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What do you STAND for?

Check out Tavis Smiley's latest documentary, STAND, set to air May 24th on TV One. You can also purchase a copy of the 90 minute documentary from the official STAND site, http://www.standthemovie.com/home.htm.

Below is a clip of the official trailer, followed by a synopsis of what you can expect from the film... I'll be back with my thoughts once the film airs.

STAND

It was the summer of 2008 in Memphis, birthplace of Blues. America was
commemorating the 40th Anniversary of the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther
King Jr., against the backdrop of then Senator Barack Obama emerging as the
first African American to become the Democratic presidential nominee. As America approached the historic presidential election, the national dialogue and debate intensified about race relations, politics and the legacy of the civil rights
movement.

Broadcaster Tavis Smiley dissects this national discourse with ten
Black male friends over several days during a special road trip through Memphis
and Nashville. While visiting places like the Lorraine Motel, where Dr. King
died, and Stax records, credited with laying the roots of southern soul, Smiley
and friends explore the diversity and complexity of the Black male experience in
America past, present and future.

STAND reveals the journey of a unique group of scholars, musicians,
comedians and social critics as they gather for a rare reflection of brotherhood
while confronting their own roles and responsibilities as pioneers of social
progress.

CAST: Tavis Smiley, Dick Gregory, Michael Eric Dyson, Cornel West,
Cliff West, Eddie Glaude, BeBe Winans, Wren T. Brown, Daron Boyce, Robert Smith
and Raymond Ross. Special appearances by Sam Moore, Isaac Hayes and David
Porter.

Runtime: 90 minutes

Sivat ProductionsDirector/Executive Producer: Tavis SmileyProducer:
Sasheen ArtisSupervising Producer: Adriane HopperEditor: Stacy Goldate

-Source

Sincerely,

TSH

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Ignorance of the Day: Does this really come on TV???

Seriously, WTF? Come on people... get it together. Like I really don't know what to say. SMH!

Sincerely,

TSH

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Sincerely: What do we really value?

I was reading an article in the NY Times about how the shortage of doctors will impact President Obama's health care goals. According to the article there is a shortage of primary care physicians - the doctors who are responsible for the day-to-day health of many Americans. Many doctors are leaving the primary care sector of the business to specialize in specific areas of medicine, as specialist tend to make more money. The NY Times quoted President Obama's speech at a White House forum, where he said, "We're not producing enough primary care physicians... The costs of medical education are so high that people feel they've got to specialize."

As I was reading this article, for some reason the NFL draft, which took place last weekend, came to mind. And I asked myself, what is wrong with our values system in America?

According to salary.com, the median expected salary for a physician is $147,824 with approximately 10% of doctors bringing in more than $190,000 a year (I would assume that much of the that 10% are specialist).

Now, back to the NFL draft.

The number one pick in the 2009 NFL draft, Matthew Stafford, received a six year contract. Over the six years of his contract Stafford will make $78 million if all goes as planned. That equals out to $13 million per year. If for some reason, such as injury, Stafford is not able to uphold the terms of his contract he is still guaranteed to receive $41.7 million over the 6 years, which is approximately $7 million per yer. With that in mind, please consider the fact that several NFL football players (professional athletes in general) are given similar compensation.... BUT NONE OF THEM SAVE LIVES FOR A LIVING!!!

Based on these numbers, Stafford's salary can pay the median physicians salary about 88 times over. So again I ask:

WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR VALUES SYSTEM???

Sincerely,

TSH

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