Wreckless Love... Or Homewrecker Love?

It's simple. Married men are off limits. Period. Dot.

I try to keep the gossip to a minimum here, but for some reason this story struck a chord with me.

No, I have never been married, and no, I don't know what it feels like to have another woman destroy what I believed to be a beautiful and unyielding union of which I was one half. But, I'd imagine that if feels quite awful.

So... 2 things:

1. Listening to the interview with Mashonda, it stood out to me when she said she realized that it is not her fault...

So many times we (women in similar situations) blame ourselves for the mistreatment that we arbitrarily receive, whether it be verbal, physical, or psychological abuse... I could go on and on about what I believe causes the mental chains that lock us into believing that we inherently deserve to be misused, but I won't... Instead, I'll just say that we (women) need to learn to love ourselves. Love ourselves as deeply as we love the men that we seek, so that if we do come across a man who chooses to mistreat us, we can simply walk away (as hard as it may be), because we will love ourselves enough to know that our own mental, physical and emotional health is more important than that unhealthy relationship... We also need to respect ourselves, which will unintentionally yield respect for other women and the sanctity of their romantic relationships. If we gain a greater sense of respect for ourselves then we will not allow ourselves to be disrespected by being some body's side piece... And in regaining these simple virtues, we will become better role models to the little girls who will come after us.

2. Say it ain't so Alicia... Not the Alicia Keys that I know (in my head). Not the Superwoman, A Woman's Worth, singing Alicia...

How many of us thought that Alicia Keys would break up some body's happy home?... I sure didn't. I mean, I know it's all hear say right now, but if you ask me, it's pretty convincing hear say. But I guess, it just goes to show that you can't judge a book by it's cover, or a celebrity by their public persona... I mean, who would've thought the Chris Brown's little adorable self would nut up on Rih Rih... but let's not go there.

OK, so 3 things....

3. Because I like Alicia, and because, aren't we all just trying to find true love?....

What if your one chance at real, true love is with a married man?... What if he is your soul mate?...

Yea, that doesn't even make sense, because if he were your soul mate then you wouldn't have to steal him from another woman, right?... Well, I tried to give A. Keys the benefit of doubt... but hey, there is only so much bs'ing a person can do.

Conclusion=Unacceptable!

Sincerely,

TSH